FIVE(5) FACTS EVERYONE IN A RELATIONSHIP MUST KNOW

Hi there!!

My apologies for not posting for some days now..Been a little bit busy these past few days..

But I'm here now to redeem myself..

Today, I'll share with you five(5) important facts everyone who's in a relationship must know...

We all want to have a beautiful relationship with our partners..It is quite true that most times what begins as a model relationship ends up sour..There are things that affect this..The kind of thinking we sometimes have is part of the reason..

That saying, if you have come across this post you'll be grounded on the necessary facts we should know while being with our respective partners..
Are you ready for them? Cool...

Please know that taking note of these facts and applying them accordingly will earn you a stress-free relationship. One you'd enjoy totally enjoy.

     1.  YOUR BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND IS NOT YOUR MONEY MAKING MACHINE:

Yes please. All my Nigerian brothers and sister please take note of this..your boyfriend/girlfriend isn't your money making venture..Show some maturity...Mind how much you take from him/her..You are not married yet, so make sure you don't lose your worth by always demanding. This is not a very good thing to do..Yes, definitely for the ladies:he's meant to take care of you..spend on you once in a while...make you happy. However, it doesn't make you take advantage of this and run him down..even if he acts like he
doesn't mind, there are some certain things you just
 have to do on your own..Don't depend on him/her all the time..Last time i checked, i know guys love independent women...You must not have the whole world to be listed among this category of people..so Take Note of that.

For the guys..It's true here in Nigeria, girls don't always spend on their boyfriends.But most girls are daredevils.They actually spend on their boyfriends....Well, If you're among the lucky few to have such wonderful sweethearts..Please do not depend so much on her lest you lose your respect.

     2.  AVOID BORROWING OR LENDING MONEY TO EACH OTHER

This should strictly be avoided..The reason is when you lend out money to someone, you expect it to paid back to you on a particular date you(the lender) and the other person(the borrower) decided on.

When this date comes and goes and the payment is not yet made, you begin to get annoyed..

Well, know this, when you lend out money to your partner, the anger and sense of betrayal you'll feel
when the money isn't paid back is enormous..Even
though you try to deny this, deep down you know you'd truly get pissed. They may take advantage of the fact that you are theirs and because of this, they don't make any effort to return the money....

 Then the next things is, you begin to regret your actions(that is,giving him/her the money in the first place), especially when that money is meant to solve a very urgent need for you..

So, to be on a safer side, Give money out of the willingness of your heart to your partner, do not expect a return. So both of you do not have any fallout. Honestly this is actually one of the major reasons for a break up.

    3. NO THIRD PARTY INVOLVEMENT:

This particular fact we all seem to have an idea about, yet it is the only fact that is mostly violated. How much can this be stressed. Every dispute must be settled together...No third party involvement..Even though you want to share your problem, do it because you want to be relived at that moment of the stress you're facing..But it doesn't mean you must take any advice given..

Those people you are seeking advice from do not know what goes down between you and your partner behind close doors..they don't know those little things that keeps the two of you together...
In fact at that very moment..you may recount your experiences only from your side..you'd say only your rights and never your wrongs..you'd say things because you're hurt..so whoever is giving you advice at this point is definitely going to be biased..So, to save that relationship, settle all disputes on your own!

   4. RESPECT EACH OTHER:

I know in Nigeria, we have this notion that a woman is meant to be submissive..a woman is meant to respect the man.. Of course this is true..but what you all should know is this, 'respect is reciprocal'..When the two people involved lack this-Respect, then there is a problem. Don't fail to respect each other's views, opinion, privacy, and things like that..
You're dating that guy doesn't give you the right to chase his other female friends away..doesn't also give you the right to act like a dictator...choosing what he wears all the time, choosing the male friends he should hang out with and things like that...
Same goes for guys: respect everything about that lady you're dating..her choices..her friends..her body(do not hit a lady.. Highly Prohibited!).

Finally, Please Know This:

        5.   NOT ALL RELATIONSHIPS ENDS UP IN MARRIAGE:

This is indeed true. The earlier people realise this, the better.. You're dating Mr. B and everything is going fine, is a good thing. It doesn't mean something cannot happen along the line and destroy the relationship.
Have this attitude..Give your relationship all you've got(your best), but when you see, things are not working between you two, try harder..still the same, then make me a move out...DON'T KILL YOURSELF IN IT. Do not act like you are glued to that particular person..Move on!

If you think all relationships are meant to last- lead up to marriage- then take five minutes to think about all the "Exes" you've had..all of them..are you still with them? So Before you start hating him/her you've dated for breaking up, have it in mind that such fellow did nothing wrong(even though he/she might have hurt you deeply)..Take it that you've been done a favour..He/she has given you a break to be with someone else who'd give you what you need..At least that person didn't deceive you, lure you till when you're married then do this rave of the moment-divorce.

Others include: avoid comparison(don't compare your relationship with someone else's own), surprise each other once in a while(do something different)...ETC

These are just some of the rules....I'll stop here, so I can give you room to air your views..whatever they are..please share them...
Are there other facts I didn't point out??? Tell us, so we can learn from them as well..
Remember the end point is for us to have very wonderful relationships...relationships  that would end up in marriage and even though they don't because of some unavoidable reasons..we can still look back and smile because we know they were indeed beautiful while they lasted and we did our best..

Cheers!